Tuesday’s election brought about a lot of crazy stuff to a lot of people across the country.
Kentucky elected a real goober of a governor hell bent on repealing the ACA expansion in that state. No doubt thousands of people voted against their own self interest there.
And then there’s Houston, which voted to remove an already-passed measure to protect gay, lesbian, transgender, and other minority people. The overall consensus is that a bunch of old men were freaked out that someone is looking at their penis in the bathroom.
Dear men: no one cares about your tiny little penis.
Here’s the thing guys, and I say guys because I know it’s mostly scared white men who are complaining: there is no correlation to gender identity and sexual identity. They are two mutually exclusive things. Like “Democratic Socialism” and “Capitalist Dictatorships”. They can both be together, or not at all.
A man can be gay or straight (or both, or somewhere in between. We’ve known this since the 1920’s). A man can also not be comfortable as a man. That makes them transgender, and they can proceed on as a biological male with a penis, or they can have an operation to align their body with their mind, or they can just not have an operation but carry on looking like what their mind is telling them. Maybe they do something in-between, like hormone therapy (which is usually the case just from expenses alone).
But just because a man more closely aligns as being a woman doesn’t mean they automatically switch who they’re attracted to. Just like wearing a ridiculous hat doesn’t make you classy. It makes you a jerk.
I’ve long thought, “Gays and lesbians will come a long way long before transgender folks will” and so far that has largely held true. Because somehow a bunch of people think people are running around bathrooms and gawking at your genitals.
This does not happen. Like most things in life, there’s a lot of gray area, it’s complicated, and you wouldn’t understand. Because most people don’t understand most things.
But know this: it doesn’t harm you if a person who looks like a man and is, in their heart, a man, walks into a bathroom and shuts a door to pee.
I gather the real sticking point is that a woman who identifies like a man shouldn’t be using the men’s restroom. Frankly, I would think the bigger concern is gay men using the men’s restroom or locker room. Because I assure you, they are totes checking you out and you have really let yourself go.
But more alarming to me is the reaction people have toward people, teens in particular, that are horribly derided as being “ridiculous”, “part of the PC police”, “a liberal fantasy”, or “confused”. I assure you no person who is identifiably one gender or another is as confused about who they should be. You are the one who is confused.
And like most teens, experiencing this while undergoing puberty and all the other teenage crap we endure, is not easy.
This is like encountering a bicyclist on your commute to work. They’re not hurting you (quite the opposite, actually). They just make you jiggle a wheel for a second. Transgender folks aren’t hurting anyone either. And they don’t care about your penis.
Just be nice.
Ironically, men get freaked out real quick when a gay man finds them attractive. But those same men usually can’t grasp that catcalling women is not okay.